Often when I am writing a page about a relationship, I’m struck by how many relationships are not symmetrical-people are so different, but we balance each other in beautiful ways. When I see pictures of my great-grandparents, they just didn’t seem to go together, she was a big broad German woman and he looked half her size, but they were quite the couple that all of the town adored. Together, they just fit. The dynamic of their relationship was balanced, but not symmetrical. This is true for most of us: our lives are not symmetrical. There is no neat arrangement. But our lives can still by asymmetrically balanced, and beautifully so. A part of our work on earth is finding this balance on a personal level: How do I give and take? How do I make time for myself and time for others, and with others? How can my relationship with my partner encompass the gifts we both bring? How can the partnership nurture us and nurture others? We also need to find balance on a global level: How do we take advantage of the gifts of the planet without overusing them? How do we maintain our own integrity and care for others at the same time?
Beautiful post, Tammy. Thanks for reminding me to slow down and THINK.
Dear Tammy,
Once again, I think you’re really onto something here. I have a poem about my life-partner and me, how when Lisa and I travel, reaching out to people in our own quiet way, being touched by others and together gently touching them, there is the piece I bring, that which Lisa brings, and something in our union, in the balance of what we both manifest together, that is an added dimension of our gifting and being gifted. Lisa and I don’t resemble each other very much at all, yet, we’re always being asked if we’re sisters. Most recently someone asked if we were twins. Twins? We’re very different physically, and very much individuals with strong personalities and tons of very different experiences that have gone wide and deep for both of us since long before we met. So I think what people see is the symmetry you talk about, something solid and good that we share, that fit or union, perhaps. I don’t know if I’m articulating this very well. Anyway, I wanted to affirm what you wrote here. Thank you again, peace,
Diane
Perfect example Diane of symmetry in a relationship. I love what you shared, thank you! I am really looking forward to meeting you and Lisa in the near future!