Finding Your Tribe (from Daily OM)

The people who become members of your tribe are in the world waiting and you are destined to find them.

Part of being human is the search for an individual identity. Bound to this strong need to establish a unique persona, however, is an equally intense desire for acceptance. It is when we find our individual tribes that both are satisfied. Our tribe members are those people who accept us as we are without reservation and gladly accompany us on our journeys of evolution. Among them, we feel free to be our imperfect selves, to engage unabashedly in the activities we enjoy, and to express our vulnerabilities by relying on our tribe for support. We feel comfortable investing our time and energy in the members of our tribe, and are equally comfortable allowing them to invest their resources in our development.

The individuals who eventually become members of your unique tribe are out there in the wide world waiting for you. You are destined to find them, one by one, as you move through life. Sometimes your own efforts will put you in contact with your future tribe members. At other times, circumstances beyond your control will play a role in helping you connect with your tribe. If you look about you and discover that you are already allied with a wonderful and supportive tribe, remember that there are likely many members of your tribe you have not yet met. On the other hand, if you feel you are still living outside of your tribe, broadening your horizons can help you find your tribe members.

However your life develops after you come together with your tribe, you can be assured that its members will stand at your side. On the surface, your tribe may seem to be nothing more than a loose-knit group of friends and acquaintances to whom you ally yourself. Yet when you look deeper, you will discover that your tribe grounds you and provides you with a sense of community that ultimately fulfills many of your most basic human needs.

Last year I found my tribe.  My tribe consists of 4 other women who range in age from 38-63.  Each time we meet we connect on a cellular level.  What we each bring and share at our meetings is always unique and different, just as we are.  I want to encourage you today to actively search for your tribe.  Find those who you connect with and that you can share your deepest most intimate thoughts with without ridicule or judgement.  When you find your tribe, you will know it!

2 Comments to “Finding Your Tribe (from Daily OM)”

  1. My Tribe is The Feral Cats. We are bound in a mystical way. We thank Tammy, the cat herder, for helping us to connect. She is Mother Cat, Emeritus. Nice blog.

  2. Thanks Pat. I was thinking of my ferals when I received this daily om message. The ferals are a great example of 5 women coming together in magical and mystical ways. The love and support you all share touches my heart. I am glad that I got to witness and be a part of your tribe coming together. I love all 5 of you very much!

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