Archive for May, 2012

Working towards goals!

My wall of honor at my home consists of 4 medals…soon to be 5 that I am very proud of!

I have had the privilege of back last October of running, er, should I say walking the Palm Springs Tram Road Challenge.  That was a hard, hard walk, but my first medal.  The three medals to the right are in the order that I received them, I ran the Phoenix, AZ half marathon, the Palm Springs, CA half marathon and the Portland, Or. half marathon in 2012.  I plan to add to my medals with adding the San Diego half marathon on Sunday, June 3, then July 8 will be the Long Beach half marathon followed by the Bellingham, Wa. half marathon on July 21.  My goal is to try to get 12 half marathons completed in 2012 and then in 2013 be ready to run my full marathon, 26.2 miles!

I love setting goals, but even better is the satisfaction that comes when you have set a goal and then you watch yourself accomplish it!

Speaking of setting goals, those of you working on your memoirs, how have you been doing on getting close to your goal of finishing?  Keep working hard and you will accomplish all that you set out to do!!

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Lashon Hatov…

 I wore this on my arm a week ago Sunday at the Portland Half Marathon.  My tribe member consists of four amazing women who I call my friends.  I thought of these four throughout the run (seemed like 1o miles of hills, oy!) and this past sabbath at temple Rabbi Sally spoke of something I had not heard before.  She called it Lashon Hatov which translates to mean: good speech, not so much as to give compliments, but finding good things to say about other people on a regular basis.

I think practicing Lashon Hatov is something we all should strive for.  It is so easy to pick up on negative conversations and to speak poorly of others.  I am setting a goal to practice Lashon Hatov and may the words of my mouth be a gift to those who hear it.

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Mondays with Melitas – May 28, 2012

I would love to let you know this blog post was from Melitas, but I gave her another week off to rest up and get back on her feet.  I visited with her last Tuesday and I have to say I left her house feeling very depressed.  She was just not her usual self, but still in a lot of pain from her swollen feet and her leg.  Alba aka “the warden” was wanting to play golf on Thursday so I volunteered to “watch” Melitas while she was out for the morning.

If you will remember, I had volunteered to “watch” Melitas back in January when the warden went to go and visit with her family.  At that time Melitas was 93 and I had visions of us having a grand old time playing cribbage and watching football on tv and lots of relaxation!  That week was exhausting!  Melitas was busy, busy, busy!  Even the warden commented upon her return that I looked exhausted! So knowing that Melitas was on the mend I quickly accepted the challenge.  I brought my computer to work on since I figured Melitas would probably sleep until 10 or 11, as I had been told she had been doing lately.  I planned on arriving around 8:45 so I quietly let myself into “casa agave”.  As I slowly closed the door I heard Melitas yell out from the kitchen, “You don’t need to be quiet I am already up and dressed and drinking my coffee!”  As I walked into the kitchen she looked like her old self feeling much better than she was two days before!  We sat and chatted and we sat on opposite ends of the table reading the paper and when she was ready I heated up the delicious breakfast burritos the warden had made for us.  I reminded Melitas that she still needed to rest and keep her leg elevated until she fully regained all of her strength…

Do you think she would listen to me?  This is what happened next:  First she started cleaning out the refrigerator, then she loaded the dishwasher and then she started doing some laundry.  I told her to please sit down and relax, but good old Melitas likes things done her way.  So this “sitting” job ended much the same way, with me exhausted!  I know  you are all sending love and prayers to our dear sweet Melitas and hopefully next week she will be back to telling us how it is!


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The beauty of a hug…

Have you been hugged lately?  I took this picture recently of my dog Courtney and her little sidekick Gracie.  As they were snoozing together in the car I saw Courtney put her little arm around Gracie and I quickly snatched the picture!


Are you a hugger?  There is something so genuine as a good solid hug.  My students all know that I love to hug them as they enter and leave my office.  I read recently that there are 7 benefits of hugging:

7 Benefits Of Hugging:


1.  Reduces heart disease

2.  Diminishes stress

3.  Promotes longevity

4.  Strengthens social ties

5.  Lowers blood pressure

6.  Lowers heart rate

7.  Benefits the hugger and the huggee equally

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Mondays with Melitas – May 14, 2012

Back by popular demand one of Melitas’ posts from the past…she is still healing with her sore leg so I wanted to rerun a blog that she posted in the past….enjoy!!


POTS AND PANS AND OTHER STUFF                                 JUNE15, 2011

     For as long as I can remember, I can recall how the JEWEL TEA CO. salesman would come around every month knocking on the door, and then sucker my Mom into buying some thing. Of course, she bought some tea since her Mother and Father …..Granny and Grampa Moore…..had come to live in America from England so tea was very large on the menu at 509 No. Pomona Ave. in Fullerton, CA.   Tea in the afternoon, and then tea at dinner time.

     There were other things, though, that she would buy:  spices and grocery items, cleaning supplies, cookware, china… name it.  The Jewel Tea Co. had it.  When it came to the more costly items like cooking utensils or glassware, or dinnerware (if she wasn’t getting free dinnerware at the local theater on Wednesday nights) Mom had to spread out the payment at the rate of 25 cents a week so Dad wouldn’t know she was spending all this money on stuff he probably would consider uncalled for.   It was Dad that took care of the finances.  He would give my Mother the money for the weekly groceries,  and big items were a joint shopping effort.  So you see, she was having to filch these quarters out of her weekly budget to pay Mr. Jewel Tea Man.  She had an envelope in which she put the coin(s) in each week, and then the salesman would mark her payment down on a card to keep the running balance.  I guess what my Dad didn’t know, didn’t hurt him.

     Dad would be the one to slip my younger sis, Vivian, and me the dimes for the Saturday afternoon movies, and nickels for the ice cream or candy, or even pennies because those pennies bought one of those delicious licorice

whips.  How I loved those!

     Also lurking around in those early years were the WATKINS salesman and the FULLER BRUSH man;  however,  I would venture to say that it was Mr. JEWEL TEA  getting most of her business.

     This routine went on for years.  While I was still living at home, Mom gave Viv and me a comb and brush set.  That should have come from the Fuller Brush Man.  Today, I do not have that set — the bristles wore out years ago, and is lost in the shuffle.  After I moved out to do my stint for the WWII effort, and was living in Santa Monica on 19th St. just off Santa Monica Blvd. in a duplex with 4 other ex-softballers whom I had convinced WE had to do something for the war — and especially since my Mom and my Aunt Mae would not let me join the Navy so I could get myself decked out in one of those adorable uniforms — and we were sweating away working at Douglas Aircraft — Mom would add something to her quarter weekly bill and give me another helpful item.  One time it was a cooking pot with lid and a separate steamer basket.  Now I would say that was a very sturdy pot.  It is in my cupboard …  as I type this, this very minute at my usual 80 WPM.


     In order to understand about the 80 words per minute you will have to find all about this in my Memoir titled “World War II Years.”


     Another great, useful gift from Mom was of all things, a make-up type mirror which has regular mirror on one side, and the flip side is the magnifying side.  Now one thing is certain:  I could NEVER let that get

busted.  Just think of the double whammy of all those years of bad luck.

I use that thing every day  —  to this very day.  I think Mom was trying to tell me something — “spruce yourself up with a little make-up.”  You know, in those old days I can remember the powder puffs and rouge, but I just never really got into all that.  Just not my cup of tea.  Oh, oh, there’s that Jewel Tea guy sneaking in for one last mention even though they haven’t been around since 1981.  It’s just as well — Mom went to Heaven in 1973 — so

that meant his business must have been slipping,  and he was ready to retire, anyway.

     You know, I have forgotten about how my Dad passed away in 1943, and so Mom took over the finances, and had her own little check book for thirty years.  Now that puts me in a quandary as to how she paid Mr. Jewel Tea.  Did she still make him wait for all those quarters out of habit — or did she just sit down and with a great flourish, write him a check for the full amount? —  In her most beautiful penmanship, I might add.

     I will never know how many quarters she was paying all those years, but there is always a warm feeling when I think about it.  And wouldn’t you know,  my ancient brain department has just now remembered that the Corning Ware stuff in my cupboard was another gift from Mom.

     Another gift she gave:  All the love.

Completed:  June 16, 2011                                    Melitas Forster

I bet she was a cute kid!

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