Archive for October, 2011

Mondays with Melitas – October 31, 2011


If you checked into my last week’s blog, you may remember that I was going on and on —once again — about the footballs, or lack thereof in my life; also there was a picture with my younger sister, Vivian, and me and our dolls. Oh! Joy! Well, that blog started some reminiscing for Georgia, who is in my circle of golfing friends, and here is what she had to say in an email to me. With her approval, I wanted to share it:


Your story today makes me think of Christmas Days when I was young. I remember the year I knew there was no Santa Claus, and my two dumb brothers thought there was. Boy, was I smarter than they were!!! – especially my brother Jerry, 2 years younger, with whom I fought all the time and secretly wished would fall down the stairs and break a leg. On Christmas Eve after the dumb boys had gone to bed — they would go very early because that meant Santa was free to arrive — Daddy asked me to help him carry in all of the presents from the barn. AND – while we were placing the presents around the tree – I got to eat the cookies and drink the milk the dumb boys had left for Santa!! I never asked or even thought about a football. There was no football in Canada that I knew of, and certainly not out on a farm. My wish for years was to have a Barbara Ann Scott doll (google her and you’ll see how famous she was in Canada!!!!) which I eventually did get although NOT because I was interested in playing with dolls – never was – but because she was such a hero to all of us Canadians.

Georgia Sobiech is the name from Sun Lakes. I only hope that she still has that doll in her possession because if she strolled into Ebay with the doll, she might very well exit driving a Rolls Royce.

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You heard it here first…

Yesterday my friend Melanie began what I know is going to be a huge revolution in movement and fitness.  Living in Palm Springs every year there is a run/walk called the Palm Springs Tram Road Challenge.  I told Mel that we should do it this year.  So we signed up and then Mel had a brilliant idea.  She said: “Tam, let’s do the tram run in the morning and then race down to Palm Desert and do the Bump and Grind Hike and then finish it off with a Bikram Yoga class.”  My first thought, I have to admit was WHAT??? Mel has gone crazy!  But the more I thought of this idea I loved it!  We began to call it our Tramathalon, and then I started calling it the Tamathalon. But in all fairness, we are now calling it our “Tammelathalon”.  If it is not too confusing we may even change it up year to year, switching between that awesome name and this one: Meltamathalon…what do you think? 

Part 1: The Tram Run/Walk: This is the kick butt part of the series.  You will feel as though you have an elephant on your chest unless you pace yourself.  I felt as though I had asthma my lungs were burning.  Those of you who want to join us next year can be a part of our group, but we divide ourselves into two teams.  Melanie’s team are the rabbits: strong and powerful.  My team will be the turtles: slow and steady with lots of stamina.

Part 2: The Bump and Grind Trail: Many local hikers love this trail.  Mel and I have on a few occasions ran/hiked this circle twice in a row.  It will definitely get your heart pounding.   Mel took off ahead of me so I told her she could hurry and save my spot in yoga as time was getting close for the 11 am class.  We kept our bib’s from our tram run and as I was running it several people stopped and said, “Hey is there a race going on?”  I yelled back “Yes, it is the tammelathalon and I am in 2nd place!”  One old man started clapping and said “Hurry, I see others coming!” 

Part 3: Bikram Yoga at Bikram Yoga University Village: Normally a hot yoga class is enough to kick anyone’s butt, but how about after 2 challenges already, but stepping into the hot room felt so good.  The room is heated to 105 degrees with 40 percent humidity.  When our friends at yoga heard what we had already done they were impressed and want to join us next year!  After that 90 minute workout and just before the savasana Mel and I high fived each other at our amazing accomplishment!

We both had such a great time and we hope next year some of you will join us!

As with anything in life it is all about setting a goal and working towards your goal.  Those of you who have set a goal of writing your memoir if you have not completed your goal let me help you complete it.  If someone would have told me a year ago or even six months ago I would have done what I did yesterday I would have thought they were crazy!  But set a goal, work towards it and when you finish you will feel so alive and complete!

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Thanks to…

 Today be thankful for all the people who have come into your world.  As you write your life story consider all of the people, the good and the bad…they have all had an impact upon you.

Being thankful is easy in the good times, but being thankful for the hard times is not always easy…but life always gives up opportunities to practice what we need to master.

Write a letter of thanks to someone who has made a difference in your life.

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What do you choose to remember?

Many times as we write our memoirs we are surrounded in our thoughts by life’s lessons.  Because we are learning from our past I think the quote to the right is very powerful.  Don’t hang on to past words or hurts.  Do hang on to what you learned.  Hopefully you will learn what you needed to learn and then move forward.

Look through your hurts and find the beauty in the lesson.  Release the hurt and be grateful for what that hurt taught you about life.

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What makes you smile?

One of my favorite things to do is laugh.  I love to laugh and I really love to make others laugh with me.   I saw this big furry spider and just had to have my picture taken with it. 

Try smiling right now, yes, do it.  Here are 10 benefits of smiling:

Smiling is a great way to make yourself stand out while helping your body to function better. Smile to improve your health, your stress level, and your attractiveness. Smiling is just one fun way to live longer read about the others and try as many as you can. 

1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive

We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away — but a smile draws them in.

2. Smiling Changes Our Mood

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There’s a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.

3. Smiling Is Contagious

When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.

4. Smiling Relieves Stress

Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you’ll be better able to take action.

5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System

Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure

When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger

The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don’t go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day — you’ll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful

Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It’s hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that “Life is Good!” Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling. 


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