Archive for May 11th, 2011

Tools in your toolkit…

I think as writers and as fellow sojourners on this path we all need some tools in our toolbox.  These tools are the things that help us when we are needing some guidance or assistance along the way.  One of my tools in my toolbox I have had for about 4 years.  This is one of those tools that I don’t pull out too often, yet I know it is there whenever I need it.  I think one of the most helpful things you can do for yourself is to have a life coach or a transformational coach.  One of the very best that I have worked with is Lisa Shield.  One of the best things about Lisa is that I don’t have to always travel to her office.  Her office is in Los Angeles and when I first started working with her I was living in San Jose.  Lisa has helped me to see the areas in my life that need working on in a gentle, loving and compassionate way.  Lisa has helped me in so many ways.  I want to let you all know that if you don’t have a “tool” like Lisa (I wonder if Lisa has ever been called a tool before??) then consider making an appointment with her.  Check out her website at

From Lisa’s Website:


LIFE Coaching

It has been said that “life coaching is product development with you as the product.” Life coaching addresses every aspect of your life, knowing that growth in one area will affect all areas simultaneously.

The coaching relationship is a partnership of two equals. Through the use of probing questions, I help connect you with your deepest dreams and desires. Together we will plan the steps you need to take action and bring your dreams to life. By challenging you to stretch beyond the bounds of what is safe and comfortable, I help you see that you can be and do more than you ever thought possible. Even when you’re blinded by fear or lose your direction, I help you feel safe and supported by reminding you of your strengths, power, wholeness, values and dreams.

I hold and honor your personal goals, and I listen to and respect what you say; after all, this is your life, and everything that you bring up in our sessions is important and needs to be explored. My role is to allow you to fully express yourself so that you can see the magnificence of who you already are. Once you see that, you can create anything?and all things are possible. It’s my job to help you get there.

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Best Friends…

This morning I was thinking of all the friends who have been in my life.  Some of my friends are from years ago and others have been added in the last few years, and even more recently in the last few months.  The above picture is Courtney with her best friend Gracie.  Sure, they look funny when they go walking together but they are the best of friends.  Gracie is a black and white boxer and Courtney is the weinerdog.  They spent the last 9 months apart and recently were reunited.  It was as if no time had gone by, they sat by each other on the couch, but most of the time Gracie was having some part of her body on or near Courtney.  As I watched the two of them I was reminded of the friendships I have had with several women over the years.  One in particular stands out as I am writing this.  I am fortunate in the fact that I have several women in my life who are ranking right up there with best friend.  The friend I want to write about today has probably been through most of my most defining moments in my life.  I probably met her for when I was around 16.  We became friends though about 10 years later.  Her friendship to me has always been a constant in my life.  We can go months without communication and yet if I call her or she calls me there is an instant connection.  This friend of mine holds my secrets close to her chest, I have probably never laughed so hard with another or cried as hard with another as I have done with her.   She has been by my side when I was raped, suffered from cancer, went through a horrible divorce and many other life changes.  I have always felt as though she was a pillar of strength to me.  She has seen me at my worse and cheered for me when I succeeded in something.  Even though I know she has not always approved of some of my decisions in life, she has always stood by my side.  I know that I can be at my lowest of lows and she will be there to encourage me and love me through to the end.  When I have triumphed over something that has been a huge obstacle in my life she has been my biggest fan.  I am forever grateful for her and as I celebrate her birthday tomorrow I want to let her know that no one could ever ask for a better friend, than the friend she has been to me.  I would give a kidney to this woman, as I am sure she would do the same for me.  So, friend of mine…thank you for all the love, tears and giggles throughout all these years.  You will always and forever be my standard of what a best friend is all about.  Happy Birthday to you, I love you!!

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